Over the years, Effikacy Solutions has worked directly with counselors and their clients to create our proprietary I.C.A.R.E. methodology and therapeutic process. ​This model is primarily based on the initial premise that the quality of our connections with others and the foundation of healthy relationships can generally be categorized into five main pillars of behavior. These behaviors include the following elements:

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•  [I]nvesting in the relationship on a regular basis to celebrate successes and identify improvement opportunities.

• [C]ommunicating and connecting on a physical, intellectual, and emotional level with each other.

• [A]ppreciating and affirming the importance of current relationships.

• [R]especting your relationship and each other's individuality, boundaries, opinions, and values.

• [E]mpathizing by acknowledging and validating each other's feelings while being vulnerable with each other. 

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​​​​​Key Effikacy Capabilities:​​

This I.C.A.R.E. Relationship Model provides the following capabilities:

• A highly successful counseling "roadmap" for therapists and clients to achieve their therapeutic goals.

• Definitions of relevant characteristics inherent in healthy relationships. 

• Identifying connection roadblocks and past family-of-origin experiences that influence current relationships. 

• Is supported by other relationship models (Emotionally Focused Therapy, Family Systems Therapy,Gottman Method, etc.)

• Delivers relevant milestones and skill measurements that inform progress related to achieving client goals.

• Leverages tools, techniques, in-session behavioral modeling, role playing and counselor "coaching" opportunities. 

• Addresses challenges related to poor conflict resolution skills, current and past trust issues, and behavioral challenges.

• Fully leverages the following I.C.A.R.E. Model Template to dramatically improve communication and connection...

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I.C.A.R.E. Model Template

 

Client Overview

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Name:  

Mobile:  

Email:

 

Name: 

Mobile: 

Email: 

 

Relationships: 

 

Children: 

 

Notes:  

 

Insurance Profile:

 

Direct Billing Profile:

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Counseling Process Overview

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(I)nvestment - Assessing and Identifying Relationship Challenges

• Identify Relationship Goals and Confirm “Fit”

• Complete New Client Intake Form

• Identify Positive Relationship Characteristics

• Complete I.C.A.R.E. Connection & Communication Assessments

• Identify Relevant Personality Challenges

 

(C)ommunication - Improving Communication & Connection

• Identify and Eliminate the Demon Dialogues of communication

• Utilize Active Listening Skills w/Empathy

• Reconcile WISE Mind Communication Challenges - (being rational vs. emotional)

• Create and Support A.R.E. Conversations - (Assessable, Responsive, Engaged)

• Demonstrate Positive Affirmation & Appreciation

• Fully Leverage the Communication Template

 

(A)wareness - Improving Emotional Awareness & Connection

• Identify and Resolve Emotional Connection Challenges

• Address Family of Origin (FOO) and Past Relationship Challenges

 

(R)espect - Improving Levels of Trust and Respect

• Resolve Disrespectful Behaviors

• Improve Conflict Resolution Skills & Capabilities

• Create & Support an Emotional Safe Harbor

• Address Physical & Emotional Infidelity

 

(E)mpathy - Demonstrating Empathy Towards Others

• Deepen and Maintain a Long Term Healthy Relationship

• Implement a Personalized I.C.A.R.E. Relationship Plan

• Request Follow-Up Support As Needed

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The Communication Template

 

Surfacing the challenge -

• Provide a short summary of the challenge (avoid Demon Dialogues, use “we” language, focus on the relationship)

• Can we talk about any challenges we have concerning [this situation] so that we are better aligned as a couple moving forward? 

 

Exploring the challenge - 

• Confirm this is a  “Safe Harbor” to facilitate open, honest communication (Use Active Listening, demonstrate empathy, stay curious)

• Let’s talk about “why” this situation is a challenge and then what emotions get triggered for each of us.

  • Reason and related emotions

     

  • Reason and related emotions

  • Reason and related emotions

 

• Avoid ‘Solution Jumping” or providing unsolicited advice too early

 

Joint solution building -

• Good, so now let’s figure out the best way to address this challenges as a couple and in a way that really strengthens our relationship…

  • TBD

  • TBD

  • TBD

 

• Revisit this step as necessary, do not rush the process

 

• Implementing the solution -

  • Monitor the effectiveness of the solution

  • Celebrate the successes

  • Revise solution as necessary

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